I’ve been contemplating my take on the difference between protecting myself and taking care of myself. Protection is: closing myself off from experiences, love, risks, relationships, opportunities because I may get hurt or lose something. Loss and change are a part of Life, there’s no escape from it. Taking care of mySelf means: listening to my inner guidance, making conscious choices as best I can in the moment, being aware of my feelings and experiences, and making choices from moment to moment.
I take steps to set boundaries while keeping my heart open. It doesn’t always mean I won’t get hurt or things will always “go my way”. Only this way can I remain open to the Bigger Picture – what the Universe has in store for me. This way I stay open to love and what Life has to offer me.
Sometimes I get hurt, I make “mistakes”, I fall on my face, but I get back up. When I realize everything is an opportunity for growth, healing or learning, I remain open. I am taking care of my Self.
Taking care of my Self means listening to my inner guidance to notice if something “feels” off. Protection simply means shutting off my feelings all together. My feelings let me know where I am at and how I can take care of myself.
Protection keeps me closed off from Life, from my feelings, and both painful and joyful experiences.
Taking care of my Self keeps me open to the opportunities the Universe provides to me. I choose to stay open even if sometimes it hurts.
Here’s a real life, tangible example. My past couple of relationships have triggered abandonment within me.
I have choices; I can go into protection mode. “I’m not going to date, I can’t do this again” … Blah blah blah.
Or, I can look at the opportunity which is to keep my heart open and heal the abandonment that still resides within me by being present with it. I can make new choices in the way I decide to date that will take care of me. Like strictly being friends and seeing if I like the man. Any worthy suitor will stick around. I am practicing taking care of my Self and staying open. It’s a win-win for me.Top