I have always loved taking pictures. So, I thought, why not use my own photos of where I’ve been, what I’ve experienced, how I looked and where I am now as a means to share my journey.
Sometimes photos can be charged with strong emotions, flooding us with memories or feelings from that time or experience. Perhaps we remember the joy, the fun…or maybe there’s some unresolved pain from that time. I might remember how I felt at the time, the people I was with, what was going on in my life. If there are unresolved emotions, I just notice them, sit with them and watch them. Allow them to be and let myself make peace with that time in my life.Top
Do you ever find yourself giving someone else advice or sharing your wisdom or insights with them? Perhaps suggesting they should do this…or that? Have you ever stopped to listen to the advice you’re giving or wisdom you’re sharing? Perhaps the very wisdom you are sharing is a message for you.
Say, for example, you’re concerned about a loved one. You tell them of your concerns, saying “you should be more careful about what you eat” or “ you shouldn’t let yourself be treated that way” or “you need to get more rest”. Really? Should they? Or, maybe it’s a message for yourself. Each of us has our own inner guidance and it’s truly empowering to make our own choices. How can anyone else truly know what we are feeling? When we know that another can make the best choice possible, we empower them and we take care of ourselves in the process. Trust that whatever experience they or we are having is right for them right now. Why? Because as many great teachers have said, that is the experience they are having.
That brings us back to us, you or me. When I begin to really listen to the wisdom that comes through me to share with others, I often hear a much quieter voice that says, “psst, listen Maria, this is for you too” or a feeling that represents that thought. When I bring my focus back to me, the bigger me, my Self, I empower myself to make the best choices possible from where I am at, and likewise empower others. I allow them to experience the many benefits from the lessons they have. I take care of my Self first and everything else falls into place.
That said, there are times when friends, colleagues, clients ask for my wisdom. And when I really listen, I hear great reminders and great wisdom. That wisdom tells me I am merely a channel for the Divine pouring through me. Things such as…
- Ask my Higher Power for guidance – the wisdom and answer is already within me if I open to it
- Ask for help, allow the universe to support me
- Surrender my will to my Higher Power’s will for me…(What a relief – you mean I don’t have to figure it all out?)
- You mean there’s a bigger, universal plan for me and if I surrender it’ll be so much easier?
The wisdom and advice I share with others is really for me and for you. It’s who we already are and have forgotten. Next time a friend asks for your advice and wisdom, really listen to what is called from you. listen to what you say. Is the message for you too?Top
Sometimes the Universe brings us our lessons in the most unusual ways. Perhaps if we weren’t aware, we wouldn’t even see it.
Recently a new cat has moved into our neighborhood. If you know me, you’ll know I have two cats, Trax and Butters. They are both indoor cats. My beautiful kitty Trax of 9 years is a very alpha, dominating cat.
I thought I was being helpful and slipped into a pattern of rescuing. The new neighborhood cat got out, and I thought I’d “save” him and return him to his owner. Keep in mind, at the time, I was unaware of what pattern I had fallen into. I was not trusting that the cat could surely find his way home. He obviously needed my help. I disregarded many things through my actions. If you know about cats, you’ll know they can be very territorial and don’t want another cat on their turf. As I mentioned before, Trax is super alpha. I picked up the neighbor’s cat and carried him through my house and out the front door. About a two minute trip. Not only did I suffer multiple cat scratches and holes in my shirt during those two minutes, but I also contributed tremendously to disharmony in my home. I brought another cat into Trax’s terrain. I’ve had cats for over 20 years, so I really do know better than this. And for the first time, Trax attempted to dominate me. He was aggressive and lashed out at me and my other kitty, Butters.
I didn’t know what to do. I felt terribly guilty. I judged myself for the disharmony I contributed to, rather than seeking the lesson. I had tried a number of things with Trax that were non-aggressive. Nothing worked. I was not establishing dominance in the house. I was letting the little cat push me around, intimidate and bully me. I recognized this as a metaphor in my life. I finally empowered myself. I surrendered, not knowing what action to take, and I received guidance. What does mama kitty do with her kittens? She picks them up by the scruff of their neck and it incapacitates them so they surrender. They feel safe and secure.
Trax surrendered to me. I realized I love my kitty, but the lesson was – loving someone doesn’t mean tolerating “bad” behavior or abuse or physical, verbal or emotional violence of any sort. I can love my cat while taking measures to care for myself by detaching from his aggressive behavior and giving him unconditional love, safety and security. Simply by grabbing him by the scruff when he acts out. He now respects me as the alpha and most importantly, I respect myself. I listened to what felt right. I surrendered to my own guidance and a solution was provided that was harmonious for all.
This can apply to all relationships with people too. I’ve often thought, that if I love someone I should love all of them unconditionally. But to me, this meant, I should tolerate “bad” behavior.
What Trax taught me is I can love others and loving another doesn’t mean I have to tolerate “bad” or abusive behavior. I can listen to my own inner guidance and take measures necessary to take care of myself. Loving myself first, I then detach from the person’s “bad” behavior. Perhaps I speak up and ask for what I need. Maybe I need time to listen for an answer before I know what to do. Sometimes it’s necessary for me to separate from the situation or person. It doesn’t mean I don’t love them. It simply means, I love me first and I take care of myself first. I am now first on my list of “things” to take care of – Maria.
Thank you Trax for contributing to my lesson. Once I finally got the lesson, I again experienced harmony in my home.Top
Check out my new blog. A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words – What Does This Picture Say to You? We are surrounded by incredible things every day, Life’s “little” miracles. Are we looking at the glass half empty or half full? Do you see the richness in all around you, or do you mostly see the lack? I confess at times, I only see the lack, which is part of what inspired my blog. I want to share my experience, my emotional journey, and to begin to focus on the richness of Life that surrounds me from my past and in the now. The miracles of everyday Life we take for granted. The butterfly, the beautiful flower, the magnificent mountain, the incredible city, or places we live in…and so on. I am grateful for all Life’s blessing both big and small, no matter how they look on the surface. Look within the experience, within the picture, and you’re sure to find an abundance of blessings and gifts. Maybe it’s just revealing to you more of who you really are. .
Snow Covered Mount Shasta by Maria ConlonTop